Marriage and Relationship Counseling
It is never too late to fall back into love with your spouse. Sometimes, you only need a little guidance with marriage and relationship counseling. The best part of your life can be after the worst.
“There is no challenge strong enough to destroy your marriage as long as you are both willing to stop fighting against each other and start fighting for each other.” Dave Willis
Ask anyone who has a relationship that has lasted the test of time, and they will say they had to work at it! Sometimes, we work on things we didn’t know were in us that a close, loving relationship brought up. Sometimes, we are working on letting go of all we cannot control in others. Sometimes, we must learn how to communicate boundaries so our partner can hear. Sometimes, we get to work on developing skills that we were never taught growing up. Sometimes, we learn to drop protective walls we erected because of past hurts.
Working through our past hurts is critical if you want to show up authentically in your current relationships!
“Trust is the glue of life. It is the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” Stephen R. Covey
Truth be told, trust is often broken in small or large ways. Healing broken trust is something both parties have to work on! If one person doesn’t want to do the work to rebuild trust – that won’t work. And if someone works to restore trust and the other person won’t let trust be healed, that won’t work either. Working on what is in the way is essential if a relationship is to recover after trust has been violated.
Equally important is to know if your partner is safe to be with. If they do not protect your heart, if they want to tear you down, if they don’t want to or are not able to change…sometimes you need some support to discover if healing a relationship is possible.
Sometimes, the partner doesn’t want to change. Get support for yourself to work out how that affects you and your family. You deserve to be loved and deserve to heal. Be the best you can be despite another person’s dysfunction.
Therapy with EMDR can help both partners heal from the past, discover who they are, and strengthen their core healthy selves so they can show up for themselves, their spouse, and their families!
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.” Robert Holden
So, working on what gets in the way of unconditional love and acceptance of self will help improve your self-image and help you see that you are worthy of being treated well! When you truly see yourself as worthy, you will also see that everyone deserves to be treated in the same way!
I teach communication skills, listening skills, and boundary-setting and then deal with anything that makes using higher-level tools difficult. Investing time, energy, and resources into yourself and your relationship will be an investment that keeps on giving!
If you’re ready to begin your healing journey, contact Karen today!
I accept some insurances, call to see if I accept yours!
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(805) 312-3421
Ventura County